So , how old are you now ? Are 25 , 30 , or 35 years ? Day by day , year after year . During the back and forth you also help relatives and friends prepare for their wedding . Then , when you turn ?
The question was not just thrown them , but you often ask yourself to . In tune with your decision still being single , relatives and friends are also busy arranging a blind date for you with a few single men . Whatever the scenario , do not give in to pressure !
Rejecting marriage pressure is often a task many single women today . Whatever your reason for not getting married at this time , an air of confidence and strong will is that you need to not give in to pressure .
Clinical psychologist and author Seema Hingorrany believe , the pressure to marry is often created by certain social norms are still prevalent in the family .
" For example, women who live with their parents until they are married before . Condition often makes them much more difficult to cope with the pressure . However , the best way to handle this situation is to maintain calmness and refrain from being a rebel , " says Hingorrany .
A marriage can not take place unless both partners feel confident to live together . Therefore , it is important for you and your partner determine the right time to get married , not because of the pressure of others.
" Often parents fail to understand the situation because they are not on the same thinking with their children , " says Hingorrany .
Another thing that is often " forced " to get married woman 's age ! Compared to men , there seems to be an unwritten rule for women to marry at a certain age . If the time has passed , then she would be labeled " old maids " or " women do not sell " .
Look at the five following tips to overcome the pressure to get married .
Having Your Own Plan
Make a plan and decide what is best for your life . For example, education , employment , savings , when married and with whom , and so forth . Concrete plan that will help you win the battle .
communication
Constant communication with the family is very important . " Do not be defensive and rebellious to your parents . This will only worsen the situation , " said Hingorrany .
Be Confident
Whatever you decide to do , be confident and keep.
Do M enghindari Friends or Family
Often to avoid the pressure you also avoid the pressure source , ie friends or family . Better not , yes . Just answer their questions with the three tips above . If you answer correctly, they will surely merima you are.
ponder
Marriage is not something that should be rushed . Before you sleep at night , try to think about what you want out of life , especially on marriage . Again keep in mind , marriage is not a race !
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